It’s time to welcome back the wise one in my loved ones- Mother Polka Dot. The 1 who plaited my hair when I was expanding up, who wiped my tears and who gave me the warmest hugs. Not only is she the most stunning ladies you’ll ever meet but she’s constantly up for with a cup of tea and a chat and tends to make the greatest chicken soup you’ll ever eat. You can read prior musings from Mother Polka Dot here.
In my travels by means of life I have learned some quite hard lessons and 1 of the hardest has been that there are two sides to each story.
I believe it is human nature to make positive or negative judgments about people just on appearance alone. Years ago, a member of my family members, as part of his high school education, went with his classmates and spent a week sleeping in a hall and assisting in the care of homeless people. He worked in the soup kitchen, sat amongst groups of these individuals and listened to their stories. What struck him, had been the fascinating stories these men and women told about their lives, the reasons they lived on the streets, and the way they embraced these young school students who were assisting them. It definitely squashed any preconceived notions he had about these men and women – these were all of a sudden extremely human to him, with feelings and life stories to inform – some of them tragic.
As we go about our days, we consistently make unconscious judgments about the people we encounter, or situations we face. We hear a bit of gossip about an additional employee and (unconsciously) instantaneously feel we can make a judgment about that predicament, we appear at the clothes a person is wearing and a random thought flashes across our thoughts, we see the person in tattered clothes and dreadlocks – gee – he must be from ‘the wrong side of the tracks’!
But we haven’t heard the story from the employee herself, or the particular person in tattered clothes – their story – as they live it.
The stories we see on the television just immediately after the news – the so-called ‘current affairs’ applications, and yes, dare I say it, Dr Phil, are touted as ‘stories to make people aware – for the public good’ – but are they really? Don’t we all just sit there and assume, ‘Well, I would by no means do that ‘, or feel some degree of self satisfaction because our life is surely not as undesirable as ‘theirs’! These stories are so 1 dimensional they are, or must be, creating us cringe!
The times when I have been most important, I have noticed that I have swiftly been place in my location later by an occasion that has taught me to be a lot more accepting and mellow, and to reserve my judgment to a private corner of my mind! I have come to understand that judgment comes out of a place of wanting/needing to really feel superior (shock..horror…who, me?)
Often it is simpler to judge than to move into the realms of accepting that you don’t know the full story, and require to mellow these feelings of superiority. And following all, who are we to be so superior that we feel we can sit in judgment of one more? Do we all not have our own foibles, idiosyncrasies and particular life conditions that are far from perfect?
How good it would be to reside in a world exactly where our 1st thoughts were of kindness, compassion and empathy. To realise that everybody has a story. And to truly accept one more human being or a predicament on face worth would be a soul filling and great issue.
I hold operating on it every day.
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